We’re celebrating the parents who are with Toya Graham, the Baltimore mom who recently beat the crap out of her kid she caught red-handed.

“I was shocked. I was angry, because you never want to see your child out there doing that,” Graham told CBS News of the moment she spotted her son, Michael, 16. “At that point, I just lost it.”

On that note, we’re celebrating those who know the difference between punishment and love – and how they sometimes merge.

Below are a few quotes that argue where the line of appropriateness begins and ends for good parents and their approach to discipline with troubled children:

Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.

– Mahatma Gandhi

We need to understand the difference between discipline and punishment. Punishment is what you do to someone; discipline is what you do for someone.

– Zig Ziglar

A person who has been punished is not less inclined to behave in a given way; at best, he learns how to avoid punishment.

– B. F. Skinner

“I turned around and I look in this crowd, and my son is actually coming across the street with this hoodie on and a mask,” Graham told CBS News. “At that point, I just lost it … That’s my only son. And at the end of the day, I don’t want him to be a Freddie Gray.”